In the midst of the recent Supreme Court rulings concerning marriage equality, I have been mulling over some key factors surrounding marriage, and I’d be interested to know what you think about these questions and issues.
1. What is the difference between a marriage and a relationship?
A relationship can occur between many different combinations of people, animals, and things. Relationships can be anything from a boy and his dog, a man and his son, a man and a woman, a women and a diamond ring, a man and his rife, and so forth. There are many different types of relationships, and most exist outside the bounds of the law.
A marriage, on the other hand, is a romantic relationship which is (in the US, at least) acknowledged by law. To my mind, then, the critical question in the marriage debate is: “What forms of relationships constitute a marriage under law?” The simple presence of love isn’t enough (parents aren’t married to their children) — and not even the existence romantic love makes a marriage (people can date without being married).
2. Should marriage law belong to the states, the federal government, or neither?
The right to marry is reserved to the people by the Ninth Amendment, and some federalists would argue that marriage law should be left up to the states because of the Tenth Amendment. Is marriage something in which the federal government (i.e. SCOTUS and Congress) should be involved at all, or should it be left up to the states — or should it be privatized entirely?
3.Does the sexual orientation of parents affect raising children?
Many advocates of preserving traditional marriage often bring up the point that only one man and one women can properly raise children. Research has found, however, that parenting is not effected by the gender of the parents involved but by their ability to raise and care for their children. A married heterosexual couple could be terrible parents and their child may never learn a code of ethics and moral values; meanwhile a single dad or lesbian couple could be exceptional role models.
4. What about Nancy Pelosi’s recent remarks?
Finally, consider Nancy Pelosi’s recent remarks in response to Rep. Michele Bachmann’s comments on the Supreme Court hearings earlier this week.
Bachmann: “The decision today can not undo God’s word.”
Pelosi: “Who cares.”
So what do you think?Published in